Healing Your Life Stories
How does it work?
The way this works is deceptively simple yet powerful. You bring me the ‘issue’ that is in your present life, even if that is that you don’t know what’s wrong. It’s not necessary to be clear at this stage. We have an initial three sessions together and we clear whatever is needed. This may be something from your past that you are unaware of. We generally ‘meet’ every two weeks but this is flexible. It doesn’t have to be the same time each week.
Three sessions will get you to a place of understanding your issue, how to heal it and how to continue the work at home should you wish to. We use whatever healing techniques are necessary so that you can make decisions from a clear place, be the best version of yourself and feel at peace with yourself and others.
Who is it for?
Sometimes the issue is that you feel there must be more to life, or you feel you are missing something. Sometimes it is more specific: lack of confidence, anxiety, depression, specific memories, childhood ‘stuff,’ wanting to apply for a job but not feeling good enough, relationship issues, angry outbursts, emotional overwhelm, feeling sad or weepy.
People often don’t heal their stories because they feel ashamed: their story is too small, other people are suffering more, I should just move on, get over it. I disagree: NO story is too small to access proper healing, you are not weak or pathetic for not handling it, for needing some help.
Whether you are new to this work, or have done lots of counselling, healing or self development in the past, my techniques are quick, easy to learn and highly effective.
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What to expect
Emotional Freedom Technique or Tapping helps to shift a whole range of issues quickly and effectively. It works firstly by talking around the issue and understanding the key emotions and beliefs, and then tapping on these. These quickly dissolve with the tapping.
For example I helped a client who believed that she was the reason for a family argument when she was eight. Except this wasn’t the original issue she presented with: she came with depression, not valuing herself and not putting herself first.
Within one session she went from an eight out of ten thinking it was all her fault that members of her family still did not talk to eachother, to ‘how could it be my faultI was only eight!’ She had been carrying this her whole life, and her other symptoms also started to resolve.
Understanding our own story can help release it. Every story has a sub plot and this is the deeper work: the why of how someone ended up in a particular job, in a particular relationship, what part of yourself you were looking to fulfil.
What you are telling yourself about yourself because you did a particular thing: are you not loveable, unworthy, shameful? The part of yourself that feels unloveable is still in there. If it is really strong, you will be acting out in an unloveable way just to fulfil this part.
Often we do this in order to try and heal it also. Have you noticed how people repeat the patterns of their lives: marry their mum or their dad? We are trying to understand, to forgive and to heal. My gift is that I can see these patterns, I can help you see them also and heal them.
Our bodies hold the answers to more than we realise and once we find out how to ask, it can open up a whole new understanding. This is an easy and powerful technique, either to get in touch with parts of ourselves that feel stuck, upset, angry or in need of forgiveness, or with someone who has wronged or hurt us. With the right guidance everyone can do this and we can quickly and effectively let go of emotions.
We can also gain understanding on someone else’s point of view. This puts us in a position of power, not over that person but by being in charge of our own decision-making and emotional responses to decide how to proceed.
Often what actually happens is that the issue just falls away on it’s own without us having to do anything. This stuff really does change lives!
This is optional of course, but is included in the price. Like everything I do it is bespoke: I may suggest some specific exercises you can do at home to release additional emotion.
All of these techniques are tried and tested and things I use myself daily in my own life. You can read about my story on the ‘My Story’ page. I have gone from feeling ashamed and a failure, to feeling proud at how much I have achieved.
Basically, the more homework you do, the more you release old emotions and habits, the quicker it will happen.